Your post brings up several points which strike close to home for me. My daughter is both an accomplished classical musician and an engineer. I have no doubt that women can and do succeed in the STEM areas. Sadly outside of medicine there just aren't that many women pursuing those careers and goals. They often fail to get support and encouragement in school and worse face a daily, uphill battle in workplaces that are almost entirely male.
Being assertive is another related issue. We did our best to raise our daughter to be confident and assertive. I don't think she has any difficulty debating technical considerations in her field. I have been lucky enough to work for a couple of women bosses in my technical field. All were assertive and took no guff.
Another point made is that even with the skills and with an assertive, goal oriented approach, many women fail to get appropriate recognition. Perhaps I am wrong but that seems to be changing, especially in photography. There have been quite a few women who are recognized as among the photography greats. Historically and even recently women have not received recognition in many of the arts. Hardly any of the recognized painters of the past centuries and even currently, have been women.
When it comes to this forum, I would certainly like to see less technology orientation, more artistic orientation and more women involved. I wonder what would be needed to change any of that.