thats not how i see it at all, i raised my daughter as a single dad, and the was no effort or compromise and a marrage should be the same, but if that was the case you have married the wrong genetic partner as we are suppose to mate with our genes being as far apart as possible, my daughter a bio major said well dad at least you mated with the right person but cant live with them ๐ and my daughter just received an academic excellence award so shes living proof ๐๐